Me enredé con una menor: fui tratante y perdí todo | Fernando #Penitencia 178 #entrevista #México
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Takeaways
- ❖Fernando, a former architect, was sentenced to 25 years for human trafficking, corruption of minors, and lenocidio.
- ❖His involvement began in nightclubs, where he managed and profited from a minor he believed was an adult.
- ❖The crime led to the loss of his family, wealth, and profound personal shame.
- ❖After 3 years in prison, he converted to Christianity, which helped him accept full culpability and overcome misogynistic views.
- ❖He now dedicates his time in prison to helping other inmates and has reconnected with one of his daughters.
- ❖Fernando emphasizes that personal decisions, not external factors, are the root cause of criminal behavior.
Insights
1Descent into Trafficking from a Privileged Background
Fernando, a successful architect from a disciplined, moral family, describes how financial stability and a desire for 'perversion' in nightclubs led him to become involved in human trafficking. He initially justified his actions by believing the women 'needed' his help and sought pleasure rather than financial enrichment.
Fernando states he had a 'good teaching of moral life,' was an architect, and 'it went quite well economically.' He then says 'the having a stable economy and perhaps a little above average... makes you deviate.' He describes 'perversion' in 'nightclubs' and 'enamorando a chicas, entre comillas.'
2The Specific Crime and Legal Consequences
Fernando became deeply involved with a girl he believed was 26 but was actually 17. He provided her with a home and profited from her work in clubs. His second wife, upon discovering his infidelity and involvement, accused him. He was initially charged with around 40 offenses, which were reduced to human trafficking, corruption of minors, and lenocidio, resulting in a 25-year sentence.
He 'got entangled with a girl' and 'put her a home, a house.' She 'said she was 26 years old' but 'it turns out she was going to turn 18.' His second wife 'decided to accuse me of trafficking and corruption.' He was accused of '40 crimes' which 'were gradually reduced to three crimes: trafficking, corruption, and lenocidio,' leading to '25 years.'
3Profound Personal Loss and Shame
Fernando describes the 'terrible' shame he felt, particularly towards his parents, for corrupting the moral values they instilled. He lost his second marriage, contact with his younger daughters for years, his properties, cars, clients, and the trust of his family, leading him to wish for death during his first three years in prison.
He felt 'terrible shame' and 'destroyed the family.' His mother 'falleció' (passed away) while he was incarcerated. He 'lost houses, lost cars, lost trucks, lost my clients.' He 'lost the love of a good woman, a partner.' He 'wanted to lose my life' and 'was very cowardly to take it myself.'
4Spiritual Transformation and Acceptance of Culpability
After three years of imprisonment and struggling with misogyny, Fernando converted to Christianity. This spiritual change led him to realize he was solely responsible for his actions, not the women or external circumstances. This acceptance of culpability marked a turning point, allowing him to find peace and purpose in helping others.
He 'became misogynistic' in the first 3 years. After his second wife left, he 'gave myself to Christ' and 'started to realize that the only guilty one in all this situation was me.' He states, 'When I accept to pay that responsibility and that committed fault, my life in this place begins to change.'
5Reconciliation and New Purpose
Fernando reconnected with his eldest daughter from his second marriage after approximately eight years of no contact. He believes honesty about his past is crucial for true forgiveness. He also found a new partner while incarcerated and now leads a church within the prison, using his experience to help other inmates transform their lives.
He 'had about 8 years without knowing about her.' He believes 'the truth and humility open doors.' He met 'another woman' who is 'also a daughter of God, Christian.' He 'has a church in this place' and is 'helping to restore people.'
Lessons
- Recognize that personal choices, even amidst prosperity, can lead to severe consequences and involvement in illicit activities.
- Confront and accept full responsibility for one's actions, rather than blaming external factors or victims, as a crucial step towards personal transformation.
- Seek avenues for spiritual or psychological support during incarceration to foster rehabilitation and find new purpose.
- Prioritize open and honest communication with family members, especially children, about past mistakes to facilitate healing and potential reconciliation.
- Understand that human trafficking is a complex issue fueled by exploitation of vulnerability and the pursuit of 'pleasure' or illicit gain, requiring societal awareness and intervention.
Notable Moments
Fernando describes the profound shame he felt knowing his parents, who instilled strong moral values, would learn of his crimes.
This highlights the deep personal and familial impact of his actions, illustrating the internal conflict between his upbringing and his criminal behavior.
His conversion to Christianity in prison, after three years of anger and misogyny, led him to accept full responsibility for his actions.
Quotes
"Aunque mis padres tenían una instrucción moral hacia cada uno de sus hijos, eh la decisión la tomamos cada uno."
"Me enredé con una chica y este le puse hogar, una casa... de repente resulta que no, que que iba a cumplir 18 años."
"El único culpable en toda esta situación era yo. No era culpa de las mujeres, no era culpa de la madre, no era culpa del padre... El único culpable era yo."
"En un desliz perdí todo, todo. Perdí casas, perdí autos, perdí camionetas, perdí mis clientes, perdí... Pierdes el amor de una buena mujer, una pareja estable. Pierdes a los padres, pierdes a los hermanos, pierdes a la familia."
"Corro el riesgo de que me deje de hablar. Sí, pero es mejor. La verdad duele y es mejor es mejor a que que sepa toda la verdad este de de lo que hizo su padre."
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